There is something that has been bothering me and I have been wondering if I am the only one who has been feeling like this… So apparently you teach people how to treat you based on your behaviour or what you accept from them.
So, I am sitting here feeling angry at myself, somewhat angry, annoyed, or depressed… Well, I don’t know really… I found myself being treated the way I did not expect to be treated by a close friend of mine. It left me asking myself: “How are they supposed to know how I want to be treated?”
Well one way is to explicitly tell them, but I hate confrontation, so that makes me so, so uncomfortable. I often distance myself and avoid anything that steals my peace. It is better to avoid it, right? Just drop little hints, hoping they will pick up on them, should I then get frustrated when they don’t?
What I didn’t realize is that, whether I use words or not, I am always communicating. I am constantly telling people how I want to be treated, I am just doing it more subtly than I think.
Now enough about me… Lets talk about you…, yes you!!!
Think about it… What do you communicate to others? How do you treat others? How do you make people feel? How do people feel around you?
Every time you get angry at someone, you teach them they can make you lose control; hence they literally control your emotions, thoughts, and actions.
If they choose to say or do things they know will trigger you, you are helpless and cannot stop them.
Every time you agree to do something that goes against your self-interest, you are saying you are easily manipulated and can be used. You might be aware of this, but you don’t have the will to fight back. If you don’t respect yourself, why should others?
Every time you look for validation, for outside confirmation you’re okay, you are shouting to the world that you think you are not okay. Why should anybody listen to your advice if you don’t listen to it yourself?
The way you act, what you choose to do, defines how you want to be treated. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. The best way to let people know what you expect of them is to just tell them, with your actions, as much as your words.
Take a moment, really, and just think: are you treating yourself the same way you want others to treat you?
How much time are you spending with yourself? Can you stand yourself?
How do you spend time with the ones that you love? Drinking or with self-destructive behaviour? Is this building you in anyway? Are you always the one paying for the bills?
Do the people that you spend time with feel like sunshine?
Do they make you feel bad for doing the things that YOU want to do?
Do they treat you they are Beyonce, and you are their fan?
How can you change it?
Well, I would love to chat with you on WhatsApp 065 225 2525
Check out these:
